The process of going through parental alienation is the hardest pain to endure. It is akin to a death with no closure. It is the grief that will not stop. My daughter’s once told me that I am no longer their mother. And with that single statement, I no longer allowed myself to be celebrate Mother’s Day. Each year I avoided social media, avoided friends and sought solace in the mountains and a dinner alone at a restaurant. Anonymity was my dinner date.
Stop giving away your power!
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage” — Lao Tzu
After a few years, I realized that no matter what my kids said, I was still their mother. On their say so, I stopped being their mom. Bullshit. They don’t get to tell me who I am. They don’t get to tell me who to love. So, I took back my power. I found my mother lion again.
“While loving someone deeply gives you courage”…..
I love that part of the quote. Love gives you courage. To love deeply is to be vulnerable. And to be vulnerable means you are present and open for the person you love. For your child. And what greater way to pick yourself back up, after you have been knocked so freakin’ hard to the ground then with the most intense love you have ever felt for someone. The kind of love that makes you feel invincible. That kind of love that you felt when you say your baby for the first time. Yeah. That’s the kind of love I am talking about.
So, I invite you to get up, roar like the lioness that you are and celebrate Mother’s Day. And then see your child for the first time again. They need you. They need your courage to love them deeply.
